Talking about jealousy in relationships is an extremely challenging endeavor. However, if jealousy is a part of your relationship and you are going to deal with it once and for all, it is extremely important that you develop the correct approach and even verbiage to talk about it in a manner that engages your partner meaningfully…
Dealing With Jealousy In Relationships – Communicate Appropriately
[callout title=]You absolutely have to learn to communicate in an appropriate manner when talking to your partner about jealousy. Fail to do this and you are off to a wrong start in resolving your jealousy issue.[/callout]
Given the emotional nature of jealousy, it is not surprising that if and when it becomes a part of relationships it is so difficult to deal with constructively. Emotions are always on the high side, suspicions are rife, and insecurities are most likely a part of the environment.
It is for these reasons in particular why it is so necessary to understand that the onus is on both parties to develop an approach where instead of these negative emotions driving the conversation, there is a feeling of a definite objective to be met. And that is to be rid of the feelings of jealousy in your relationship.
Getting Rid of The Jealousy In Relationships – Your Communication
How do we start to get rid of jealousy in relationships by how we communicate?
- Do not put your partner in a defensive mode by your language. Jealousy in relationships is not helped by being directly accusatory.
- Focus on your feelings rather than what you think your partner did to result in your feelings.
Instead of saying you did that or this, say “I feel this way and I want to be rid of these feelings”. - Understand that it is extremely important that you set a tone where your partner feel vested in ridding you of your feelings of jealousy. Jealousy in relationships is never helped by pushing away the other person.
- Be fair in what you say. Do not distort. If your partner perceives that he or she is being unfairly criticized, put down or feels it is only about your feelings, it is highly unlikely that the conversation will get anywhere. And what you could end up doing is creating a superiority hurdle making it more difficult to to set a tone conducive to dealing with jealousy in relationships.
Instead of taking a stance that portrays your partner as the one to be blamed for how you feel, start off by taking an approach that clearly states how you are feeling without tying it to any behavior on the part of your partner. That should create an environment where what the focus is concern for the feelings you are having and a desire to deal with them.
The end result of the wrong approach to dealing with jealousy in relationships of course is all parties end of feeling frustrated with more anxiety and insecurity than even before.
Jealousy in relationships is a real challenge to deal with, but with the correct understanding, a responsible attitude and a focus on what is at stake – happiness, it can be done successfully.
